Delusional Love

By Jackson Cooke

Love is a scam. I've decided that "love," in its conventional sense, is nothing more than a creation of man, much like God. Gordon Gekko had it right when he described love as nothing more than something than an idea that was created to keep people from jumping out of their skin. People live their lives in search of love, in search of that person that will make them eternally happy. The problem with this is that they overlook the true person that will make them happy and that is themselves. There is no point in looking to anyone, other than yourself, for happiness. As of late, I've almost given up on the idea of finding "love" because it would do nothing but hinder the glorification of myself.

There is something to look forward to, but it's not a necessity, but the problem is that it's different than Romeo and Juliet's definition of "love." It is what I refer to as inter awareness. It is, essentially, two people that totally understand themselves, understanding each other but in the form of a relationship. Inter awareness replaces love. You can have inter awareness for friends or for significant others. What I'm looking for, and have been for quite some time, is a woman that totally understands herself and when she meets me, will understand me and we can connect on that level. This level is higher and more complex and intimate than any "love" that some idiot thinks they are experiencing. I'm discussing the notion of a higher level of affection based on logic and thought, not of emotion, which is what traditional love is based on. One could call inter awareness logical love, but using the L word is bastardizing a great concept.

Granted, when I meet a girl that I experience inter awareness with, I will tell her that I love her, but that's only brevity issue. But let's analyze "love." It's collectivism. We are talking about a concept that people claim they are experiencing, but is it really? I have no right to tell someone what they are feeling, but let's look at what love typically involves. First and foremost, it is about emotions. Illogical feelings that cause people to act irrationally, what is the appeal in this? I'm sure it feels great to experience "love" with someone but trying to enforce your will on someone and attempt to control them seems counter productive. I'm discussing the idea that throwing your reason to the wind and letting emotions take the reigns is ridiculous.

Because I care greatly about someone does not mean I want them to live by my standards. This is a typical interpretation of "love." One attempts to impose their views on religion, politics drugs and alcohol, amongst many other things when they are in "love." This is simply ridiculous. If someone is getting fucked up on drugs and alcohol constantly, then leave them. It is up to the individual to make decisions about substances and not up to their significant other to change them. Just leave them and find another person that holds the same opinions about substances, or someone you can tolerate with their intake.

Inter awareness is beyond all of this. It's just about respect, understanding and a connection. Some may say that is what love is about, the problem is that they don't respect, understand or connect with themselves. This is much more important and what one must do to experience inter awareness. It has nothing to do with emotions. Emotions will flourish when they are ready, with inter awareness, but this is a type of affection that is based on a logical attraction, not blind love.

Blind love is just as ridiculous as blind faith. Love is just as ridiculous as God. They are both fake, made up ideas. Humans made up these ideas because if you focus on love and God, then you will not focus on yourself and it's another hit to the individual which will dismantle collectivism. Love fades, people's emotions fizzle out but they stay in these bullshit relationships because they are comfortable, but here's something that doesn't sound so pessimistic: logic doesn't fade. It will always be there and if you have a relationship based on logic and respect, then it will feel fresh, always. You will not be trapped in something that drives you insane and if you want to bail, then that person should understand because they understand and respect you.

I'm not able to reform society, government, or religion, so I know I will not be able to change the scope of relationships, considering most people put so much emphasis on emotions, but this is what I will do with myself and it just makes sense.

Discard love when you discard God, it will be more liberating than you could imagine.

originally published on Liberty and Individualism